James Hadley Chase and American Pancakes

The first time I ever read a book by James Hadley Chase, the brilliant author of American noir genre crime novels spanning from 1939’s ‘No Orchids for Miss Blandish‘ to 1984’s ‘Hit Them Where it Hurts‘, I was all of thirteen and was immediately hooked.

Recently finding a list of his books online, I remembered many of the titles having read most of them. I adored the stylish book covers almost as much as the delicious ‘hit me hard and leave me standing ‘ style of writing.

You can see why:

You've Got it Coming 1955The Handome Flawed Hero and the Beautiful Woman

You’ve Got it Coming – 1955
The Handsome, flawed hero & the beautiful, coniving woman

Strictly for Cash - 1951

Strictly for Cash – 1951

Tiger by The Tail

Tiger by The Tail – 1954

These books have it all: Gangsters, blackmailers, kidnappers,  cops, illicit affairs, treachery, fraud and of course murderers. Handsome but flawed heroes who just want to get rich quick and who also happen to have a weakness for beautiful but treacherous women. The private investigator who needs to earn a few bucks and has a knack for sniffing out a dirty criminal, or two.  The stories tumble along at engrossing, breakneck speed and always with a zinger of a  twist-in-the-tail ending.  What’s not to love?

All this makes for a fabulous read. Once started, I couldn’t put these books down.   I firmly believe that the first stirrings of my love affair with America began all those years ago, lost as I was in the settings, the characters and the plots of my James Hadley Chase novels.

Interestingly, I was shocked to discover many years later that James Hadley Chase was in fact an Englishman who had only visited America a few times and never actually lived there. He wrote his books based mostly on his research through maps and a slang dictionary.

Aside from the great plots, I was fascinated by the descriptions of American diners where the detective would invariably find himself sitting at the counter ordering coffee and ham and eggs.  Or steak and eggs.  With pancakes.  Not forgetting the maple syrup.

As a teenager living in 70s Britain this was unheard of.  I was reading these books at a time when we didn’t even know if we would have electricity that day, or night,  thanks to all the strikes that were taking place at the time.  Things were pretty austere in 70s Britain and to have ham or steak for breakfast was unthinkable, never mind with pancakes too.

Traditional English crepe-like pancakes, smothered in lemon and sugar, were a treat saved for Pancake Day (Shrove Tuesday) in February,  but I wondered about the ‘short stack’ of American pancakes that I read about in these stories, the ones topped with whipped butter and maple syrup dripping down their sides.

Dear reader, I wanted those pancakes.  I dreamed of going to an American diner one-day and ordering them, with ham and eggs and hearing the waitress say,

“How do you like your eggs Honey?  Over-easy or sunny-side up?”

How often do long-held desires buried deep within our hearts come to pass if we want them badly enough?  My ambition might not have seemed like much but I didn’t stop dreaming.

Yet, it was purely by chance that I met my American G.I.  We were both eighteen when we met. He was in the military, newly posted to England and I was astounded when he told me was from California.  I jumped when he offered to take me back ‘home’ to visit his family a year after we met.

Did I get to sit at a counter of an American diner and order pancakes?  You bet.  Did I order my eggs sunny-side up? No. Over-easy as it happens. And yes, the waitress called me ‘Honey’.

I was living the dream.

Many years later, widowed  then remarried with three kids in tow, we often used to visit Los Angeles where the grandparents lived.  My then father-in-law enjoyed taking us out to breakfast to a little hole-in-the-wall diner on Sunset Strip, which looked like nothing from the outside, but time-warped us into a different dimension on the inside.

The LA sky, bright-blue not a cloud in sight and short-sleeved warmth disappeared once inside. It was like stepping into a club late at night, lit only by dim, orange lamps hanging above round tables surrounded by brown, semi-circular leatherette booths. Ceiling fans hummed softly.

On the walls were black and white photographs signed by movie stars like Bette Davis, Sammy Davis Junior and Marlon Brando while soft blues crooned from the overhead speakers.   The waitresses wore frilly, gingham checked aprons,  flat, white shoes and took no flack.I was instantly transported to a scene straight out of one of James Hadley Chase’s books.

There, sitting in the shadows in a corner of the room in a booth all to himself, was my detective. Wearing a shabby suit, trilby hat perched over one eye and cigarette dangling from his lower lip, he pretended to read the newspaper.  But I could see that he was keeping an eye on the beautiful but treacherous woman and the poor sap sitting next to her in a nearby booth: it was only a matter of time before one of them slipped up.

My obsession with American pancakes has never gone away and now, when my chicks are  gathered back in the nest,  I bring out the griddle and make a batch of these beauties. As much as I love Jamie Oliver and Deliah, I  do have to confess that my all-time favourite ever since I was given my first American cookbook in 1979 is the incomparable Betty Crocker.

Nothing beats her for homespun, comforting family meals, fabulous cake recipes and yes, American pancakes. Her recipe book has been well used, as you can see.

DSC07407Simple, tried, tested and true.

If you are interested, here is the recipe using American cup measurements.  For ease of conversion, 1 cup of liquid is 8 fluid ounces or 250 ml and 1 cup of flour is 4 1/2 ounces or 125 g:

  • 1 egg
  • 1 cup of all-purpose flour (plain)
  • 3/4 cup milk
  • 2 tablespoons vegetable oil
  • 1 tablespoon sugar
  • 3 teaspoons baking power
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt

You can also add any combination of fruit if you so desire such as 1/2 cup of  blueberries but I like mine plain! When I make these for my family I always double up on the ingredients and they make plenty for 6 adults.

What I love about this recipe is the simple method unlike others which I’ve come across.   The trick is to whisk the eggs together first (I use a hand-held electric mixer) until they are as light and fluffy as possible, full of bubbles like this:

Whisked, fluffy and pale eggs

Whisked, fluffy and pale eggs

Then all you do is to simply whisk in the other ingredients but only do so until the batter is just mixed in and barely smooth, don’t over whisk it!

Nice, smooth batter

Nice, smooth batter

I pour out three dollops of batter on the griddle, not too much.   When I used to make them in the States I used an electric griddle but I couldn’t find one here so I use one on the gas hob instead and it works just as well. You can always add a little milk as you go if you want to thin out your batter, but I find the thicker the batter the fluffier the pancakes!

Pancakes on the griddle

Pancakes on the griddle

As soon as the bubbles appear on one side and the edges start to firm up slightly you can flip them over.  Don’t press down on them, just let them rise for a couple of minutes and then transfer them to a hot plate.

Flipped pancakes

Flipped pancakes

That’s it!  Easy-peasy. Serve them up, top with maple syrup and butter if you wish and guaranteed you will be enjoying the fluffiest, yummiest American pancakes, maybe not in an American diner but certainly this side of Somerset!

Fluffy American Pancakes

Fluffy American Pancakes

So thank you James Hadley Chase for setting my imagination alight with your mind-grabbing stories. For the escape I longed for as I struggled to find my way in life and also for introducing me to American pancakes.  Who knew that one day I would be rustling up a batch in my English kitchen?  I certainly didn’t.

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Betty Crocker’s Cookbook New and Revised Edition Third Printing, 1980, Golden Press/New York, Western Publishing Company Inc., Racine, Wisconsin can still be purchased at Amazon at this link:http://www.amazon.com/Betty-Crockers-Cookbook-Ringbound-0307098001/dp/B00CPPNNQ6  Recipe found on page 197.

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Guest Blog at MoggiePurrs!

Great excitement today dear readers! Before my recent writing crisis (for want of a better word!) I did manage to write a guest blog for my lovely American friend Beverly over at Moggiepurrs.   If you would like  to read it, and I hope you do,  you can click here.

The name of Beverly’s blog should be the giveaway that her blog is all about cats and not just about her sweet kitty Sophie.  For all you cat lovers out there, this is the blog for you!  You will find anything and everything there is to know about cats over at Moggiepurrs and Beverly’s informative, interesting and often very humourous posts are not to be missed.

Making new friends here on WordPress has been one of the most enjoyable aspects of blogging.  I hadn’t been blogging long when I decided to introduce my cats to the blogosphere (you can find all my cat posts, should you  be so interested, under the category ‘CATalogue’ – where else?)

Beverly was the first one to comment on my post and she very kindly told me that she would be following me because I wrote about two of her favourite things – cats and England!  Of course I then visited her blog, followed her for obvious reasons, and we have been firm blogging buddies ever since, particularly as we also discovered that we started our blogs at the same time in January!

Beverly has also been incredibly supportive of my blog and my writing in general.  I have bounced off her with quite a few technical questions when I’m being thick and she also introduced me to LinkedIn.  It’s been great having her by my side throughout this blogging journey.

Thank you so much Bev for all your support and for this great opportunity.

You really are the cat’s meow 🙂

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Been down this Path before

For some reason I am having a great deal of difficulty writing today.  The post I had intended to put out yesterday didn’t materialize because my USB cable for my camera has broken (second time!)  This means that I can’t upload the photos which I needed for my post.  This will now have to wait until later in the week, hopefully!

I have a few writing assignments which must be completed within the next couple of days so I am panicking.  This doesn’t help. I thought about sharing a poem but this isn’t working out either. I think the WordPress gremlins have leached their way out from my blog and into my brain.

The problem is, I feel I need to write something, I feel I need to write this.

…………………………………………………………………..

Brain fog.  It’s all pervasive today. I want to escape. I’m starting to think that I can’t write.  I’m crashing and burning.  The words aren’t coming and I feel stifled and blunt, like an old knife that has sat in the kitchen drawer for years, buried and hidden underneath all the newer, better, contemporary utensils, and which has only just been rediscovered.

By accident.

“Oh, so that’s where that old knife has been?  Well, darn me.  Look at the old, worn out thing.  Time to toss it.”

Blunt, useless, rusty around the edges and so needs to be thrown out.  Just not cutting- edge, not sharp enough,  no longer up to the job. That’s my mind today. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.

Where have all my great ideas gone?

I would like to wash them in boiling hot water until they are as pure and as white as the heavens, and hang them out to dry so that every last trace of a thought can be bleached out by the glare of the sun, never to be seen again.  Then I can at least know that they have disappeared into oblivion and I don’t have to keep scratching about in my mind to find them.

Maybe then I can begin again.

Putting all that to one side, now, today, I want to walk up a hill, surrounded by the shadow of ancient trees, creaking and groaning in the woodland as they bend over to whisper their secrets into my empty heart. Then, and only then,  I might remember the endless wonder of a childlike faith.

Only then will I hear nothing but the wind.

Bluebell Woods Dorset (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Bluebell Woods Dorset
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Beauty of a stone creation, crafted on the back of someone’s pain and longing.  Prayers etched on tablets, kept open for people they never knew to read, to weep, but always, always, to have hope.  Even when drained of all that was once so real, still, there remains a scant of hope.

Look then, here, faded words given over to a memory shared freely with us who remain.

An inscription written by a son in honour of his father and the love of nature and all things bright and beautiful which was instilled within him. A monument erected in his honour, hidden deep within the very woodland he so loved to explore.

Stone Monument built in 1879 Selworthy Woods, Quantock Hills, Somerset (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Stone Monument, Selworthy Woods, Quantock Hills, Somerset
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Holiday in the Quantocks Oct 2011 (15)

Inscription from Stone Monument built in 1879 in memory of St Thomas Dyke Acland 10th Baronet         in Selworthy Woods, Quantock Hills, Somerset
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

When the woods no longer hold their cool and calm, can I walk in the light of a house on the edge of the world, giving meaning to it’s warnings and it’s danger, never wavering or running out of purpose? This is how I stand still and strong.

Lighthouse at Watchett Harbour, Somerset (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Lighthouse at Watchet Harbour, Somerset
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Then, dare I ask for a memory of the open sea as it crashes on the shore where my children used to play?

Looking back, looking forward, only breathing now, today.

This is where I taste the salt-pressed air and breathe the oxygen from the promise of this day.

Me overlooking Montana De Oro, California  (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Me overlooking Montana De Oro, California
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

There is a path that I follow, I want it to lead me in the right way.

I don’t want to veer off and sabotage myself with meandering thoughts of self-inflicted doubt and yet more doubt.

I want the light to keep me warm and safe, insulated from the blight of dark and despair.

Can you help me find my way home as it awaits my return,  where I can sit beside the fire, toasting crumpets and sipping tea, hiding away yet still you are with me?

Selworthy Village,Somerset (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Selworthy Village, Somerset
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

I’ve walked down this path so many times before.  It clouds my vision, it steals my inspiration, it darkens my view so that I cannot see the very thing which stands before me, though it is as clear as the blue sky and as strong as thunder.  I look at it with deadpan eyes, standing without question, without longing, without a dream.

The silence broods beside me like an unopened letter sitting on the kitchen table, which, when opened, will bring only the sigh of a world-weary heart.   So better not to open it then.  Keep it right where it is.

Best not to stir the waters, my dear.

So then, I look to the path and I take a walk and I say a prayer.  I think of the words to a hymn giving nothing but praise.

Hymn written by Reginal Heber (1783 -1826) Stone Monument at Selworthy Woods Quantock Hills,  Somerset (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013Monument at Selworthy Quantocks, Somerset

Hymn written by Reginal Heber (1783 -1826) Stone Monument at Selworthy Woods
Quantock Hills, Somerset (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Above all else, I love and I have hope.

I write even now although I know not what.

This is the writer inside, the very real me.

This is what I write and share with you all this day.

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What a Week – Time to Bring out some Awards!

What a week it’s been.  Always a time of reflection at this time of year as we remember 9/11 and of course this does wonders for concentrating our minds on what really matters in the grand scheme of things.

Life does go on relentlessly however, whichever way we look at it.

For starters,  I certainly wasn’t expecting that I would be writing a post this week about the loss of  our poor, sweet Eric. I miss him so 😦 Then, as the week progressed, it was evident that WordPress gremlins were playing havoc with us.   I was horrified as I watched the number of my followers (better to say friends as my friend Bob pointed out in his recent blog post about this subject) drain away in front of my very eyes.

The only time I usually  see numbers draining away like that is  when I go online to check my bank account balance.

Today, I drove to my local petrol station to fill up my car only to discover that it was closed.  No reason that I could at first see, but then, as I was turning around, and very annoyed at having to do so I might add, I did see some workmen clearing up quite a bit of broken glass on the ground.  I found out later that a woman had driven her car straight into the glass-fronted shop next to the petrol pumps.  That’s not good.

It’s been one of those strange, mixed-bag kind of weeks.

Even the cats have fallen out and aren’t talking to each other.

I'm not talking to you! (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

I’m not talking to you!
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

All is not lost, however!   This week did see me celebrate my birthday and I am actually very happy because this weekend I will have all my baby chicks back in the nest again for a belated family get together.  I love it when my boys are home and we are all together again. I am also very blessed that both my boys have lovely girlfriends.  Family and friends. I don’t take any of them for granted.

I don’t take you, my friends here, for granted either.  You are all very much appreciated and I really was genuinely upset when I thought I had lost you all!  It was such a relief when I realised that it was a glitch and nothing I had done (just shows you how paranoid I am!)

Over the past several weeks, I have been very blessed with a  handful of wonderful awards from some of you and, although I won’t be taking part in the rules for these awards having previously participated, I do very much want to take this time to acknowledge and thank each one of you so very much for thinking of me and for your kindness,  it means a great deal to me.

Firstly, The Sunshine Award was sent my way by my lovely Aspie friend Darren of Aspie Story. Darren has encouraged and inspired me so much as he shares his own struggle with Asperger’s, while giving me great insight into my Aspie Daughter’s challenges.  He takes great photos too, is always interesting and informative and I just love reading his blog.  You will too! Thank you so much Darren!

Secondly, lovely Jenn of That’s a Jenn Story awarded me with the Leibster Award.  Jenn is a published author of a children’s novel and her blog is packed full of her ‘slice of life’ stories which are a pleasure to read.  Be sure to check out her blog. Thank you Jenn, you are a star!

Liebster Award

Thirdly, another Liebster Award from the lovely Jane.  Many thanks Jane! She describes herself as a 40 something mum with two delightful young boys, one with Autism and one with Aspergers, who writes about her daily struggles and victories over at her blog ASD Mummy with Issues.

imagesThen another surprise!  Just as I was getting ready to complete this post, I had a message pop up from Wendy from Searching For The Happiness to say that she wanted to give me the One Lovely Blog Award.  Oh, I have such a big smile on my face! Thank you so much Wendy! If you haven’t checked out Wendy’s blog yet, you simply must.  She is a successful blogger and freelance writer and is very generous with sharing what she has learnt with her followers.  Wendy has given me some great advice and I know she will be happy to do the same for you too!

one-lovely-blog1This is one award which does not require any rules.  I love giving presents and this being my birthday week (any excuse to keep the celebrations going) I want to give you a present. Because all of you here are lovely to me, I invite you to please accept this award and display it on your blog proudly, because you deserve it.

Take it, it’s yours, and many congratulations!

I also want to give a shout-out to these lovely blogs:

  1. charactersfromthekitchen
  2. listenwatchreadshare
  3. Travel Words
  4. Lost in the Labyryinth
  5. moggiepurrs,
  6. Susan Irene Fox
  7. Donna Jean McDunn
  8. Aspie Story
  9. Confab
  10. Rachel at Quakerattled
  11. Jardin Luxembourg
  12. Conrad
  13. parillaturi
  14. mud therapy
  15. Proverbs Way

Also, must thank the lovely Jhanis over at Fascinations of a Vanilla Housewife for her great idea in putting this post together…see, told you I would copy you 😉

 Wishing all of  you, dear readers, a great weekend.  Now, let’s get this party started 🙂

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The Mystery of the Missing Followers – Solved!

Greetings my lovely followers, how lovely to have you back, I’m so happy! I missed you dreadfully and was quite worried about you all, wondering where on earth you had all gone.

Thanks so much everyone for keeping in touch and for the moral support.  Crazy isn’t it how something like this can get us on the run.  I do hope that you have also had this problem resolved.

Ah well, hey ho, another day gone by when I have done everything except for the very things I planned to do…

See you all tomorrow on planet WordPress 🙂

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Help, I’ve Lost All My Followers!

Has anyone else had this problem?  According to my Blog Stats I have just lost every single one of my followers. I just watched you all drain away. According to WordPress, I now have zero followers.

Is my writing that bad????  Please come back, I’ll try to do better!!!

If anybody out there can help me with this (I have no idea what to do about it and I’m panicking) I would be so very grateful for your help.

Thank you!!!!

Update: Have gone on to the WordPress forums and discovered that quite a few others are also having the same problem, so now I know at least I’m not the only one.  First, Spamgate, now Followergate.  I hope they fix it soon!

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Remembering 2001 and a Birthday Kingfisher

Do you remember where you were on the evening of September 10th, 2001?  I remember it well because I was quietly celebrating my birthday with my lovely children and their father having dinner at a local steak house in our quiet hometown on the Central Coast of California. A happy day spent together opening cards and presents when the children returned home from school,  speaking on the phone to my family back ‘home’ in England.

Nothing out of the ordinary on that particular Monday.

We were all sweetly oblivious of the hideous preparations which were taking place on the East Coast, the results of which would shock us to the core the following morning.

It was a school morning the next day but I was awoken even earlier than expected by the harsh ring of the telephone.  The ringtones had an air of menace about them.  It isn’t natural to have someone call so early in the morning.  All had seemed well the night before but I immediately sensed something was wrong.  This happens when you live in a different country away from your ‘homeland’, when you are so far away from your loved ones.  It is hard not to assume that something is wrong, some kind of family emergency.

When I picked up the phone, it was my then mother-in-law.  She had bad sleeping habits, slept on the couch every night and watched TV on and off all night long and always got the news before anyone.  It was the same when Princess Diana died.  She called me and all she said was “Turn on the news, Princess Diana has died!” I was shocked.  What?  It can’t be?  When I did turn on the news, even then there was speculation that she might still be alive.  Of course, my mother-in-law was right.  She always seemed to know before everyone else.

This time when I took the call she said:

“Turn on the news, somebody’s crashed a plane into the Twin Towers, a plane with a bomb is heading to LA (she lived in LA) and we are under attack!”

I turned on CNN and watched the fireman being interviewed by the news reporter just after the first plane had hit.  As I watched I was thinking that it must be some kind of awful accident, but I wondered about the plane supposedly heading to LA.

I remember hearing another plane in the background and thinking, hmmm, that plane seems awfully low to me.  It got louder and louder and then the TV cameraman panned away from the two men talking and zoomed in to the burning Tower and then, sure enough, there was another plane looking very close to the Towers.  Before any of us watching had a chance to assimilate this and register just what was going on the unthinkable happened. Right there, in front of me, along with thousands of others on live TV, I watched, horrified, as the plane flew straight into the side of the other Tower.  The kids were downstairs by now.  I was crying with shock.  This was it.

The world knew then that this was no accident and nothing would ever be the same again.

All that day, I thought of my family back in the UK.  I thought of my brother who was a pilot for a major UK airline who that very day had been flying a Boeing 747 from Heathrow to Newark.  Had he been diverted to Canada as I had been hearing on the news?  Where was he?  Was he alright? I couldn’t call my mother or anyone back home.  For three days I couldn’t make contact with my family due to communication shutdowns.

That was the worst moment for me, being so far away from my family back in England and not being able to talk to any of them for comfort and assurance.  I felt very cut off from my homeland. Of course, this was nothing compared to what others were suffering at that horrific moment.

I eventually found out that my brother, as with all approaching aircraft to the US that day, had received a call to say that he must not approach US airspace but he was not told then what had happened.  As the captain, he had calculated enough fuel for a turn around and by some miracle had managed to return safely back to the UK.  At the time, the passengers were demanding to know what was going on but once back on British soil and a press release was handed out, they were very grateful indeed to have been returned safely back to their homes in the UK and not stuck in Canada, separated from their loved ones.

Ever since that day in 2001, and on my birthday ever year, I take pause and think of those events and remember that day I spent with my family before the world was ripped apart.  My heart goes out to all those who lost loved ones and who, even now, are affected by the seismic ripples sent out from the catastrophic events of that day.

What I also like to remember is my birthday last year.

We had a day out on a little boat trip on the river Avon in Bath. Oh I do like messing about on the river! It was a delightful day, my hubbie had even packed a bottle of bubbly so that we could celebrate in style as we watched the world go by on the water.

What was extra nice was that we had the boat all to ourselves.  Our little boat man (pilot!) was so friendly and took great pains to give us the background and history of the various buildings and bridges as we motored down the river.  Then, it happened.  A flash of the most glorious turquoise blue, quick as a wink, caught our eyes.  Our pilot stopped the boat, reversed very slowly and turned off the engine.  He pointed, in silence, and there he was, the most beautiful Kingfisher, in clear view, perched majestically on a branch hanging low, just above the water.

I was desperate to get a photograph of it, my hand was shaking as I turned on my camera, and that Kingfisher didn’t move a muscle.

Now, I love Kingfishers, but they are very elusive. This was most unusual to have been able to get this close to one. Up to that point, I had only ever seen one once before and that was on Ranworth Broad in Norfolk.  We caught sight of it from the back of our boat but I was unable to get photos as it flew off as quickly as it had arrived.  From that day, some 15 year’s ago, I had desperately wanted to see one again.

My grandmother, ‘Dear Granny’, also adored Kingfishers.  She made a lovely cross-stich picture of one once and had it framed.  It hung on her wall in her living room for years and I always admired it when visiting.  She obviously took note of this and ended up giving it to me as a birthday present one year.  It’s so funny though.  Many more years passed and now it was Dear Granny who was visiting me (in the States, when she was 89 years old, but that is another story!) and she was greatly admiring this beautiful, handmade picture of the Kingfisher as it hung on my wall.

This is how the conversation went:

“What a lovely Kingfisher picture dear, is it homemade?”

“Yes Granny, remember, you made it, isn’t it lovely?”

“Did I…oh yes, of course I did, I had forgotten!  How did it end up here?”

“Errr, you very kindly gave it to me for my birthday a few year’s ago because I always admired it!”

“I did? I gave it to you? I must be going mad, I wondered where it had gone!”

Dear Granny, we had a good laugh about that.

Birthday Kingfisher (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Birthday Kingfisher
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

When I look at this photo I  think of the beauty of nature, of the good things in life, of the gifts we have been given by God above and I am reminded that even in the midst of the many troubles of this world there is still so much that is good, and beautiful and lovely.

My Kingfisher was my birthday present from heaven.  All that was missing was the wrapping paper and the bow on top.

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Alas, Poor Eric, I knew Him Well

Eric Enjoying the Party (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Eric Enjoying the Party
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Poor Eric the hamster has gone, flown off to Hamster Heaven he has.  I didn’t think he looked very good a couple of  nights ago, not very lively.   Having owned several hamsters over the years, we can always tell when they are starting to age as their faces start to look a bit ‘old horse-ish’.  As in long, narrow and a bit bony.  Well, Eric definitely had the ‘old horse-ish’ look about him for some weeks. He just wasn’t himself.

Out of all the hamsters we have had, and we’ve had a few, I have to say that I think Eric was my personal favourite.  He was the only one I felt comfortable holding, he never bit me, never peed on me and would sit up in my hands, brushing his sweet little paws over his ears and face as he cleaned himself.  Everybody say ‘Ahhh’…

A bit different to the first hamster we had, my eldest son’s first.  He decided to name him ‘Lemmy’.  This was in honour of the lead singer of the heavy metal band Motorhead.  His Dad’s influence, don’t ask. Lemmy was a bit rough and ready, liked a bit of head banging, except he couldn’t sing.

(Just to clarify, I am talking about the hamster here and any comparisons made with the ‘real’ Lemmy are completely unintentional.)

Lemmy kept escaping and I discovered that he had made a little bed at the bottom of my son’s duvet by ripping a corner of it into lovely shreds.  Bending down to pick him up after one such excursion, as I reached down to grab him from between the wall and the bed, he rose up, hissed up me and planted his very sharp front tooth into my finger.  I didn’t like Lemmy.

After that, having spent years begging me for a pet rat and then wearing me down pursuading me to get one (you know my feelings about rats from my previous post) I agreed to let him give it a try.

Well, I have to say, he did his homework and pet rats are very intelligent, clean and friendly pets. Just don’t get them near me.  However, the first pet rat proved to be a bit of a disaster.  My son adored the film ‘Jurassic Park‘ and so, it was only natural that he named his rat ‘Raptor’.  Well, he lived up to his name alright. This thing was vicious and nobody could handle it.

Back to the pet shop went Raptor.

He was replaced with a lovely ‘Blue’ rat called, well, Blue and my younger son, not to be left out, acquired Snowy.  Snowy was white, naturally.  I did grow to love their sweet little eyes and faces but couldn’t stand their tales.   The kids were constantly hounding me to try, just once, to handle their beloved pet rats but I just didn’t have it in me.

My dear readers, you feel my pain, don’t you??

Blackie the Hamster (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Blackie the Hamster
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Then my daughter finally got her very own pet hamster.  A sweet little Teddy Bear Hamster (so called because of the shape of the ears, like a Teddie Bear’s) called Blackie.   You don’t have to guess the colour of this one. (The names became more inventive over the years I might add). The next hamster was called Puddles (because he peed everywhere whenever he was out of his cage) and then there was Negi.

Aspie Daughter was going through her Japanese Manga and Anime stage at the time.  Poor Negi.   He only lasted 6 months.  One day he didn’t come out of his toadstool house and well, that was it.  Daughter was away at the time visiting her Dad.  Great.

A few years went by before she decided to replace him and that’s where Eric came in.

So here we are.  Once again, hamster-less.    I do feel quite sad, I admit.  I’ll miss the sounds of Eric’s little wheel going round and round endlessly, night after night.  Well, perhaps not that part.  Isn’t it crazy how even just a tiny hamster becomes part of the family? I’ve had a long chat with the cats and told them both that they have to make sure to live  extraordinarilly long lives. They have promised they will do their very best.

Eric - Never Forgotten (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Eric – Never Forgotten
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Poor little Eric will be buried in the back garden.  As we take the time for a few moments of quiet reflection on Eric’s short but sweet life, I will remember another Eric, the slightly more famous comedian, Eric Sykes,who took part in a live tribute to the incomparable Spike Milligan, on whose gravestone  is written this enduring epitaph:

‘I told you I was Ill’.

Goodbye Eric, we will miss you.

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It’s September and Something’s In The Air

It’s September and something is in the air.  Something has shifted. 

A barely discernible change of heart.  Something empowering from a few written words, edged with a hint of regret, yet remaining still and strong.   Opinions, debate, points taken, pause for thought…time for reflection and time to press on and time to hold my head high.

Summer hangs on for a little while  even as September’s bronze blurs the sun’s still warm rays, growing just a little shorter with each passing day as Autumn is gently ushered in.  Blackberries burst into purple goodness and golden hay bales dot the newly harvested fields.  Over-ripe apples, brimming with cider-ready juice, fall from heavy laden branches onto the dew-damp grass below. Children, wearing first-day and pristine (not for long) uniforms, skip happily (not for long!) to school.

Yes, September is upon us in all its glory, heralding the beginning of my favourite time of year. All is perfect. In my ideal world.

In the real world, something else is in the air and it is this:

Horrid Wasp

Horrid Wasp
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Or should I say these as in numerous, like an evil swarm.  I can’t believe I have posted this photograph here.  Just looking at it makes me feel quite ill and I am not exaggerating.  I have a phobia of these ghastly creatures.

Can someone please tell me just what their purpose in life is other than to dive-bomb into our faces, creep into our sandwiches and land on us ready to sting at the manic flailing of hands merest shooing away? Can’t we be left alone to  enjoy what remains of the late summer sunshine, sitting outside in a pub garden with a nice, cool glass of lager minding our own business without being hounded constantly by these yellow-striped demons from hell wasps? 

Worse. A recent newspaper article warns that due to the extended cold winter and late spring (those little chestnuts again) wasp season has been delayed by 3 weeks.  After an extended hibernation they have now emerged, healthier and stronger than ever for their long-overdue feeding frenzy!

Even worse. Due to the increased numbers of wasps, there isn’t enough work for all of them so now we have out-of-work wasps who have nothing better to do than to  gorge themselves all day long on the juice from the fermented apples.  This is making them drunk and even more aggressive and more likely to sting us!  What?!!

Jobless, drunk, agressive wasps?  Whatever next? Oh, I could say so much…

So watch out, you read it here and you have been warned!

I was born in September and my mum tells me that it is her fault that I hate wasps so much as she was plagued by them when she was expecting me so I have obviously caught ‘the bug’.

As kids, my brother and I used to spend hours playing lovely games outside like daring each other to see who could avoid landing in a bed of stinging nettles after sliding off the rusty corrugated roof of the old abandoned barn (you know the one, that old barn where the old tramp lives but who nobody has ever actually seen?).

One such time while we were out and about,  I felt something sting my leg. I batted at my jeans, thinking it was a nettle or even a thorn.  Then I felt another sting.  This went on a couple more times and then I felt something move beneath my hand.   I froze.  I knew instantly what it was.  Not caring, I immediately dropped my jeans and there, sure enough, was the semi-crumpled body of a wasp, and several red bumps on my knees where it had stung me.  I didn’t care a jot that it had stung me, it was the fact that it had actually touched my flesh. I cringe even now just thinking about it and to this day I have no idea how it got inside my jeans.

Recently, we spent a day with the family at Longleat, a wildlife safari park.  It was wasp season and they were out in droves that day.  Watching the rescue monkeys in their lovely new cages, I felt a slight tickle on the back of my left hand.  I was holding a cup of coffee at the time (I’m left handed). As I looked down, there, sitting right below my wedding ring was a wasp. My horrified reflex action was to throw out my hand not even thinking that at the same time I managed to fling the entire contents of my coffee cup down the back of my mother’s beautiful white jacket as she stood innocently in front of me.

Sorry Mum!

Here is a little story which has nothing to do with wasps but everything to do with the bond between brothers and sisters. I was reminded of it as I wrote this post.

Growing up in a rural village in Suffolk by a nearby farm my brother and I got into all sorts of trouble  had lots of fun. He is younger than me (not by much, 18 months…had to get that one in!) but he was always more daring.

Me & My Lovely Bruv (c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Me & My Lovely Bruv 1961
(c) copyright Sherri Matthews 2013

Another one of our games was to see who could jump the highest off the haystack into the soft straw below.  On this particular evening, and it was getting darker by the minute, we had worked our way to the very top of the haystack.  My brother had managed to leap off several times already and he was exhorting me to do the same, but I just couldn’t do it (I don’t like heights either!)  I would almost do it, I really tried. I would run up to the very edge, and then, as I looked down I would lose my bottle.  I just couldn’t do it.

My brother jumped off one last time and called up to me, urging me to give it one last go but I was ready to accept defeat.  I stepped back, ready to climb back down. Except this time when I stepped back I felt something soft and rather large under foot. I turned around, and there, staring right back at me, now on its haunches and squealing hideously at me was the biggest, ugliest, barn rat I’d ever seen.

That was all the exhortation I needed.  Letting out a loud scream, I took a running leap, jumped clean off the edge of the haystack, landed in the straw below, got back on my feet and ran all the way home, much to the astonishment of my brother.

As I ran faster than ever before, I heard my brother’s words ringing in my ears as he called after me:

“Well done Sherri, I knew you could do it!”

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Project O – In My Humble Opinion

Let me introduce you to the enigmatic Opinionated Man  from Harsh Reality We have a few things in common; one is that we both started our blogs in January of this year. The other is that he has had over 380,000 hits with 23,780 followers to date.  Well, ok, maybe the similarity stopped with us starting our blogs at the same time, but a girl can dream, right?

I did try to ask OM once how he does it, you know, try get out of him the secret of his phenomenal blogging success, but to no avail, although I do see that he has now written a book!  Many of us who follow his blog have come to the same conclusion that he probably never sleeps and come to think of it, I don’t think that he has ever actually denied this…

So then, the reason for this post is that I want to tell you about a little something called ‘Project O‘, which OM is running throughout the month of September. I say ‘little’ but actually this is massive, more like a global survey that he is conducting to try to find out how our opinions are formed and how much our nationality, culture, age-group etc. affects our opinions.

My first thought was, however, doesn’t everybody today have an opinion, clamouring to be heard above all others, desperate to get their point across,  demanding respect…you know, I’ll respect you if you respect me, don’t diss me (is that the right term?) yeah, yeah, yeah, oh be quiet already…

To me, the problem isn’t so much as in being able to express an opinion (coming from this Western culture in which I live, naturally) but that above all this cacophony, I have to ask, “Is anybody actually listening, I mean, really listening?”  How else shall we learn from one another, earn and show the respect of and to others,  if we don’t listen to one another?

Because of this, I admit, I thought long and hard about this project and I wondered why would anyone be that interested in reading about my opinions here?  My family and friends already know what they are and some of you, my lovely readers, already know a few things about me, so I certainly don’t want to go on about the same old same old.

If it’s all about ‘me, me, me’  isn’t that a bit like being invited over to someone’s house only to end up looking at endless photographs of relatives you have never met and being bored out of your mind?

Besides, when I started this blog I just wanted to tell stories, share life experiences, write from my heart. My Aspie Daughter warned me not to express personal opinions as it would invite ‘trouble’. Turns out she has 4 blogs, with anything from 700 to 300 followers on each (none on WordPress but I know one is on Tumblr) She says she gets quite a bit of abuse but then her subjects are very controversial. She says she can take it but she was looking out for me, it turned out, concerned about ‘trolls’ and such and the effect such abuse might have on me. Hmmmm….

I never wanted my blog to be a confessional.  Somebody told me recently not to post anything on the internet that I wouldn’t shout across a bar to someone.  Well, I’ve shouted quite a few things across a bar in my time, and I certainly wouldn’t shout what I’m about to share, but suddenly I feel compelled to be brutally honest and tell you a little more about the real me.   Dangerous!

Here then,  for what it’s worth, is my humble opinion:

(The questions are part of the Template provided by OM, his questions being the same of everyone, and my answers are in italics.)

Question 1: Please provide a window into who you are, some background information in a not too overwhelming profile here. I am allowing you as the writer to immediately connect with your audience so take advantage. Remember the point of ordering these questions is to arrange this project so it is easy for comparison and not to constrain you as the writer. Write as long as you need to for each question to get your point across just remember not to lose the reader.

How long have you got? I have felt rootless and restless all my life and I couldn’t tell you my hometown because I don’t feel that I have one.  I was born in Surrey, England where I lived until my parents split up when I was 10 years old.  We (my mum, brother and I) moved to Suffolk where we lived in a 14th century oak beamed farmhouse surrounded by fields and woods for the next 10 years.

My father became an alcoholic.  He is now 81 and has spent the best part of 40 years in and out of prison for alcohol-related crimes.  He remains in prison to this day.

My mum remarried.  When I was 16 she sent him packing and this was one of the best days of my life.   When I was 19 I met an American GI who took me home to meet his family in LA.  We fell in love, made plans.  Then he contracted Leukaemia.  We got married in Las Vegas, lived in LA and had 11 months together until the day he died in 9th June 1981 at the age of 21. Watching someone I loved go through that when we were both so young profoundly affected me.

I returned to England, distraught and lost. I married the man who helped me through that dark time, also an American with Hispanic and Greek heritage. We had our first child, a son, 9 months to the day. My son’s birth saved me. He gave me back my life, a reason for living.  Two years after he was born I was saved again, this time by Jesus.  Yes, I was. This did not go down well with my then-husband’s Greek Orthodox faith.

When my little boy was 3 years old we moved back to California and settled on the Central Coast for the next 17 years.  Another son and then our daughter arrived, our finest accomplishments.  My years in California were some of my happiest, despite a very difficult marriage, so perhaps where we lived would be my ‘hometown’.  After 22 years my difficult marriage ended and I, together with my children, returned to the UK in 2003 where I have lived ever since. My ex-husband and I have remained friends, and I remarried, again, in 2006.  I am an optimist who just keeps trying.  If you tell me I can’t do something that is guaranteed to make me try my very best to succeed.

Question 2: If you haven’t already done so please provide your country of origin, whether you are male or female, an age would be nice, and where you currently live if that differs from the country of origin. If you are in America this might be a nice time to explain what state you are from. Also try to give us a brief view of your current neighborhood and what it is like in as specific terms as you like. Why is this important? I believe our surroundings and where we come from have a strong impact on our development of opinions. It would also be highly likely that depending on the safety of the country might also determine how willing one is to express their opinions aloud. Does sex also have something to do with this, as well as age? These are all characteristics that can definitely affect a person’s outlook.

I am English with some Irish blood flowing through my veins thanks to my Irish paternal grandmother. I live in the West Country of England with my husband (we are both 53) and my 21 year old ‘Aspie’ daughter (she was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome when she was 18), along with various pets in a typical English brick house on a residential estate in a small town. Our neighbourhood is safe and quiet, filled with a cross-section of young families to retired couples and we have beautiful countryside nearby.   Sometimes people walk down our street coming home from the pub and can be loud but that is no problem to us.  Once upon a time in California, we lived next door to the ‘neighbour from hell’.  He used to wear black military gear and shoot a high-powered rifle from his roof at the ‘wild pigs’ in the park across from our house.  So a few people making some noise late at night is nothing.  Bring it on.

Question 3: Recount the first time you remember having a differing opinion from someone significantly older than you. Do you remember what the topic was about? Did you voice your opinion or hold it to yourself?

My self-esteem and my innocence was destroyed by a man who was in authority over me.  He was my step-father but he was no father. He once told me at the dinner table that since my manners were ‘like a pig’s’ I should be treated like a pig and he made me take my plate of food and eat it sitting on the toilet.  One day, when I was 12 years old, we had a major difference of opinion.  I told him that if he ever came near me again I would kill him. She rose up, that quiet, compliant skinny girl and she became stronger than she ever thought possible and from that day forward she knew that her opinion did in fact matter, more than she had ever dared believe.

Question 4: What levels of respect were practiced around you when you were a child? Was there bowing involved, handshakes, “yes Sirs and yes Ma’ams,” or some  other equivalent respectfulness in your culture’s tongue? Is an honorific given to someone older than you and do you often respect and practice that? How might the culture you were brought up in have affected the growth of your own opinions?

When I was at school in the 60s and 70s we were taught to always stand up when the headmaster or headmistress entered the room.  The only people I called ‘Sir’ or ‘Miss’ were teachers.   We were scared of our teachers, or at least most of them.  Apart from the ones who lost control of the classroom and so did not deserve our respect.  I showed respect towards my mother, otherwise I would know about it if I didn’t.  I never had a father’s discipline and so without my mum’s I would have been a real horror.

I think if we all went around saying, “I will only respect someone if they respect me” then nobody would respect anybody.   If you don’t respect your children when they are young how can you expect them to respect you when they are older?  If you scream and shout at your kids and swear at them why are you surprised when they do the same to you and their teachers, anyone in authority, when they are teenagers?   

The only person I would bow to would be the Queen.  I was taught to respect elders, yes.  I also taught my children to have good manners, be polite and show respect for their elders.  Is this old-fashioned?  You bet.  Does that make it wrong?  No way.

Question 5: How traveled are you and to what degree do you keep up with international news? You might also provide an educational background if you wish and if that education was gained from somewhere other than your current location. How available is the news and what goes on in the outside world to you in your country?

I left school at 16 and worked for 3 years before going back to college full-time where I gained a diploma in Business Administration.   I have traveled to several States, throughout Europe and to the Caribbean yet I have never been to Spain! I love meeting people from other countries. I instilled a love of history in each of my children by taking them to places of historical interest on both sides of the Atlantic. I wanted them to appreciate their roots and family’s backgrounds. I think it is very important to keep up with international news which I do by reading a daily newspaper and watching the BBC news, here in the UK it is accessible 24 hours.  When I lived in the States I lived for news of Princess Diana as she was my link to home.  I was devastated when she died.

Question 6: If you could share an opinion on a single international incident or topic that you either feel strongly about or that might not be known to the rest of the world what would it be? You have our attention.

I talked about the value of listening to one another in my blog post about this project. This spills over into my opinion about mothers and their young children.  I see them all the time walking through town, in the parks, strolling along on the pavement.  The children wondering about aimlessly lost in their quiet thoughts, not paying much attention to anything, their mothers staring blankly into the face of their mobile phones.  When these mothers finally do look away from their phones, they end up screaming or shouting at their children who have wondered off.

It breaks my heart.  For both mother and child. We all get frustrated with young children sometimes, we all need a break, but don’t they realise that their children will grow up quicker than they know and that they will soon enough be wishing that they were little again to spend more time with them?  The only problem is that by then it will be too late.  By that time it is the mothers who will be doing the chasing and it will be the children who will be far too busy to notice, staring blankly, as they will, into their mobile phones.

Question 7: What does the right to an opinion mean to you? Is it essential to freedom to have this right? How far would you go to protect that ability? The world is on fire with people of passion, how passionate are you about things you value?

The right to have an opinion means everything to me.  I felt for a very long time when I was growing up that I didn’t have an opinion, that anything I said didn’t matter or have any significance.  I was the compliant, good, quiet little girl who handled everything thrown at me so well, apparently.  Inside I was a screaming, angry, desperate little girl.  I had a voice, but it wasn’t heard for a very long time. I raised my children to be able to share their opinions knowing that they would be respected and listened to, even if it wasn’t necessarily something I, or others, would agree with.  Even now, when we are all together as a family we love nothing better than to have great heated discussions, putting the world to rights.  The rage I once held inside has now grown into a healthy passion for those things that matter to me, and I can now express that passion without fear of being subjugated and being told how stupid I am.   This, surely, is what having freedom is all about?  I would make sure, God willing and the creek don’t rise, to live in a country where these freedoms are protected.

Question 8: Is it ever right for you to be allowed an opinion while someone else is denied that same right on the same topic?

Absolutely not. How could that ever be right.  That would be a total loss of freedom.

Question 9: The last question. upon completing this template and hopefully contemplating the issue what does this project mean to you? How can Project O potentially enlighten or help the world?

I have never done anything quite like this before and although I feel just a little uncomfortable about it, to be honest, I also do feel quite liberated.  Part of me thinks I will regret taking part, for some of the things I’ve shared here.   Is this safe?  I don’t know.  It is certainly risky.  This is just what I write about on my blog anyway, the struggles we have in our daily lives as writers, as people. The risks we take.  Perhaps this then, is how this project could help the world.  By sharing our opinions and gaining a deeper understanding of one another, we can take this risk together, and share the outcome, one person at a time.

Thank you OM for Project O.

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